Kama Sutra, Tantra and Sexuality

Literature of Ancient India

Ancient Indian literature contains answers to many modern-day scientific, medical, legal, economic, social and political questions. Here are the most important works based on the cornerstones of Hindu wisdom:
Dharma: Dharma is obedience to the command of the Shastra or Holy Writ of the Hindus to do certain things, not to do other things. Dharma should be learnt from the Shruti (Holy Writ) and from those conversant with it.

Dharmashastra written by Manu is the complete collection of virtuous, religious works as a basis for Families, Civil Rights and Code of Behavior.

Artha: Artha is the acquisition of arts, land, gold, cattle, wealth, equipages and friends. Further, it describes the protection of what is acquired, and the increase of what is protected. Artha should be learnt from the king’s officers and from merchants who may be well-versed in the ways of commerce. Artha should always be first practiced by the king for the livelihood of men stems from it.

Arthashastra written by Kautilya is the treatise on statecraft, economic policy and military strategy.

Kama: It consists of love and all its associated pleasures of the senses. In ancient Indian thought, Kama is recognized as the stimulus of action and personified as the god of erotic love. This is the enjoyment of appropriate objects by the five senses:
a. Hearing
b. Feeling
c. Seeing
d. Tasting
e. Smelling – all of which are assisted by the mind, together with the soul.
The key ingredient in this is a peculiar contact between the organ of sense and its object, and the consciousness of pleasure which arises from that contact is called Kama.

Kama is to be learnt from the Kama Sutra (aphorisms on love) and from the practice of citizens. The Kama Sutra is a guidebook for developing the erotic sensibilities, information and skill, including special training on sexual techniques, as well as many other sensual and cultural expressions, which are together called the 64 arts.

When all three: Dharma, Artha and Kama come together, the former is better than the one which follows it, i.e. Dharma is better than Artha, and Artha is better than Kama.

Moksha: Freedom from the cycle of birth and death. In Hinduism, practicing Dharma (code of ethics), Artha (pursuit of wealth) and Kama (love and its pleasures) makes it possible to lead a meaningful and joyous life in this world and the next.

The Origin of the Kama Sutra

According to old Indian sources, the 10,000 chapters of the Kama Sutra were announced by Prajapati, a deity who, for a long time, was regarded as the god of creation. Mahadeva (the High-Deity Shiva), compiled the 10,000 chapters, which in turn were compressed into 500 chapters by Shvetaketu, a teacher of philosophy and the son of Uddalaka. The Kama Sutra was transcribed by Sage Vatsyayana in the form of Sutras written in Sanskrit, the ancient Indian tongue, which even today is a living, academic language.

Sutras are directives or memory-jogs for adepts, because they take the form of short, maxims in prose, which are difficult to understand without commentary. We are dealing here most probably with the predecessor of teaching-books, which was handed down by word of mouth.
The treatises of Shvetaketu on which the Kama Sutra was based, have been lost. The translations from Sanskrit which we have today refer to recognized commentaries made in later centuries.

Vatsayana’s Works

Sage Vatsayana is said to have compiled the Kama Sutra somewhere between the second and fourth centuries CE. This work was an adaptation of the Kama Shastra or “Rules of Love” which is said to date back to the seventh century BCE. Traditionally, the original transmission of the Kama Shastra was done by Nandi, the sacred bull who is the doorkeeper of Lord Shiva’s realm. Nandi overheard Shiva and his wife Parvati during the act of lovemaking and was moved to sacred utterances. He recorded his utterances to help mankind learn this scared art.

Vatsyayana’s Kama Sutra is a valuable resource for his astute psychological insights into the exchanges and settings of love, and for his well-organized description of the various situations. He states the different profiles of men and women, matching what he calls “equal” unions. His work also contains detailed descriptions of love postures.

Link between Sexuality and Eroticism

Sexuality and eroticism are seen as being important, integrated elements of the human existence—the same as eating—and apart from serving the sensual pleasures, also help mankind to propagate, just as eating keeps the body alive. The sensual pleasures of eroticism and sexuality not only serve to increase the joy of life and maintain psychological balance, but aid in the development of the mental-spiritual spheres. The five senses are perceived as being a refinement of the physical on a higher plane of consciousness whereby sexuality and eroticism contain the secret of life.

Kama Sutra and Tantra

Many confuse the Kama Sutra to be a “Tantric love manual.” But this is far from reality, as the Kama Sutra was adopted by the practitioners of Tantra about 300 years after the literature gained popularity with the masses. Tantra being the comprehensive science of sensuality, the practitioners reinterpreted some of the lovemaking positions in their spiritual practice.

Kama Sutra and Tantra Sacred Sex
Tantra differentiates between ‘sex’ and ‘sacred sex’ by your intention and approach. Creating a sacred space in which to practice love is a ritual that tells your highest consciousness that you intend to raise lovemaking to an art form and a holy rite.

Tantric sex is about seeking that part of the god or goddess within yourself and your partner. Your lovemaking is an offering to Shakti and Shiva – to honor and celebrate their divine abundance of love and abundance.

Create a sacred space for sex by taking some time to add fresh flowers, lighting candles, putting on some soothing music, draping silken cloths to soften hard edges, and adding special objects that have emotional or spiritual significance for you and your partner.

Begin by rubbing your bodies together for pleasure. Slowly, move from friction sex to energy sex where you form a deep emotional and energetic connection. The final step is to embrace your beloved in a complete union of soul sex. Some other Tantric sexual practices include massage and oral sex which are described in detail below.

Spiritual Sex Positions

According to Vatsayana, the ingenuity of humans is to imitate the various kinds of birds and beasts for stimulating congress. This is so because the different kinds of congress, done in accordance with one’s country and liking, result in love, friendship and respect in the hearts of women. It is important to remember that this book is not simply a sex manual but a guide to leading a fuller life and forming better relationships with people around us.

The original book contains eight positions, along with eight variations per position which totals to 64 positions in all. The different categories of positions include sitting positions, standing positions, rear-entry positions, woman on top positions, and man on top positions.

Usually, Tantras only recommend using certain lovemaking postures during spiritual sex sessions. These are outlined in the Kama Sutra as the following five positions (and their variations):

1) Man on his back, woman on top;
2) Woman on her back, man on top;
3) Woman and man on their sides, facing each other;
4) Woman with her back to the man;
5) Seated positions, normally face-to-face.

Vatsyayana’s Kama Sutra is divided into seven parts; general remarks, amorous advances, acquiring a wife, duties and privileges of a wife, relations with other men’s wives, and a section about courtesans and occult methods.

The seventh and last part of the Kama Sutra is an appendix to the main text. It includes formulations that are part of Ayurvedic (traditional Indian) medicine, with the emphasis on tonics for sexual vigor and aphrodisiacs. Some magical procedures are also included that, in later times, would be described as Tantric can be found in the last chapter.

The terms used by Vatsyayana are applicable in context. For example, when he uses the word Yoga he is referring to “sexual intercourse”, the word Tantra means to him “method,” “technique,” or “mechanics,” and the word Yantra implies the sexual organ “utilized as an instrument,” or to mean a dildo or “artificial love device.” Lingam specifically refers to the male sex organ, while Yoni refers to the female sex organ. The Kama Sutra has no similarities with any known Tantra, nor do any Tantras take after it, except in their common addition of descriptions of sex positions. Nevertheless, the Kama Sutra is the earliest surviving erotic “how-to” and is the foundation for many others, including those in which sexual techniques, postures, potions, charms and beliefs were promoted over the centuries.

Tantra Erotic Massage

Massage is a great way to wind down at the end of a busy day and be able to connect with your partner. Giving or receiving an erotic Tantra massage can be the first act of sexual play and a wonderful technique to ignite arousal. This is because delight in lovemaking focuses your attention using all the five senses, so you are out of your heads and into your bodies wholly.

The best part is that you can give your lover a full-body massage in less than 10 minutes. If your partner is tired or not keen on lovemaking, an erotic massage is a surefire way to get your partner interested in sex as it awakens their sensual energies. Offer your partner with no expectations of getting anything in return, as an unconditional gift because showering your partner with love is the gateway through which the human soul passes from selfishness to service.

How to give your lover a sensual tantra massage

  • Place a comfortable sheet over your bedcover for your partner to lie down comfortably.
  • Make some seductive massage oils by adding a few drops of sandalwood, jasmine or ylang ylang essential oil to a carrier oil like olive or sweet almond.
  • Take some oil between your palms to warm it up.
  • The best starting point is the back, at the base of the spine – where all stress accumulates.
  • Take a deep breath and as you breathe in, place your palms on the triangle just above the tailbone.
  • Exhale and slide your hands up his back, on either side of his spine. Your hands should meet at the back of the neck.
  • Pay attention to the hollows behind the neck, where the neck meets the skull, as these are little-known erogenous zones.
  • Firmly press down on the line of the shoulders, radiating outwards from the neck. You can also make an action like small karate chops on the shoulder blade area to release tension.
  • Glide your hands down the back following the outer sides, and come back to rest at the base of the spine.
  • Repeat the motion till you feel your partner relax completely and sigh with deep contentment.
  • Move to the buttocks, head or arms – wherever you feel your lover will like being touched.
  • Make sure that you use long, leisurely strokes across their calves, pelvic muscles, glutes, pectoral muscles and arms. Rub their ears and pull on their toes and fingers.
  • Make circular motions on their joints to get them to let go.

Additional tips:

  • Try not to talk and communicate only via touch. Silence can help you learn to connect on a different level.
    Accessories such as massage balls, feathers, rollers or other appropriate massage tools can add kinesthetic interest in a romantic massage.
  • Observe your partner to understand if a particular action is causing pain or discomfort, at the same time notice what they find pleasurable.

Tantric Oral Sex: Worshiping the Lingam

The Kama Sutra calls fellatio as auparishtaka, which translates to “superior lovemaking.” Oral sex is way beyond merely achieving arousal or orgasm. This age-old erotic practice can lead to a nurturing and relaxing communiqué with your lover. In essence, tantric fellatio is used as a form of non-verbal communication by harmonizing the sexual energies between partners.

Create a special experience for your man with Tantric fellatio. The key to pleasurable fellatio is the right setting and attitude. Ensure that the sacred space where you’ll be performing Tantric fellatio is relaxing, welcoming and comfortably warm. The best position for Tantric fellatio worship is to kneel in front of your god as a form of adoration. If that is not entirely comfortable, sit on a chair or at the edge of your bed with him standing in front of you.

The first step to fellatio is gaze into the eyes of your partner to establish a connection and make sex much richer. Tell your partner that you wish to worship their lingam and honor their sexuality and how you feel blessed to share this sacred experience.

Start by slowly taking his lingam into your mouth. Go as deep as is comfortable for you. Hold it in your mouth to appreciate its girth, rigidity and length. Proceed to love his lingam with whatever feels natural to you. Also pay attention to his entire body by scratching his chest, touching his nipples or grabbing his buttocks.

Just make sure to apply enough pressure. Wrap your hand around the base of the lingam to complement the pressure from your mouth. Try giving a little twist with your hand as you circle your tongue around the tip. Look for the little V inscribed in his lingam — trace it with your tongue before traveling back down the base.

Maintain a steady rhythm of movement on his lingam – go slower, quicker, tighten your lips for extra friction, flick or flatten your tongue against the sensitive spot under the head. Before you begin, you and your partner should devise a way to signal that he is nearing orgasm and you should reduce stimulation to prevent ejaculation. When your man gives you this signal, reduce pressure on the base of his lingam, keeping only the glans inside between your lips. Wait for a few moments till he cools down and resume the process. So, Tantric fellatio can be practiced for a longer time without your partner ejaculating.

When your man is ready to climax, create suction by locking your lips on his lingam. Move only along the three-quarters of his lingam close to the base at a swift, steady pace.

The Tantric way to seek release from fellatio is to accept his divine essence into your mouth. The ancient texts state that semen is a form of nourishment. On a spiritual level, drinking his semen is akin to drinking the elixir of life and it nourishing the worshiper’s (your) body. Rightly so, as semen is what creates life. When your man is close to climaxing, suck on his lingam intensely, receiving the semen into your mouth. At the end of this sacred rite, thank him for his gift to you.